Did you worry about stepping out on Rakshabandhan Day in fear that a classmate, the neighbour's hot daughter or the bania shop assistant you’ve been eyeing for the longest time will pounce on you with a rakhi? Did you face the just completed Friendship Day with similar dread that you will be friend-zoned? If you said ‘yes’ to either question, you need to read this because there-is-no-friendzone primer:
It is quite simple, if she says that you are her friend and only her friend, it means precisely that. Stop trying to convince yourself that it could lead to anything more. If it’s going anywhere, it is entirely in your head and she is not responsible for the workings of your inner landscape.
…here is the same scary looking dude explaining it to you properly.
You’ve been warned: she is not attracted to you. If you continue to hope, that is entirely your problem. She doesn’t owe you a thing. Deal with it.
Like I said, don’t blame her. She made it clear that she is just not that into you! If you didn’t get the message, loud and clear, you're just really, really slow my friend.
This really is the crux of the matter. You think no means maybe and maybe means yes! It really doesn’t. No means No! I would say ‘deal with it’ but I don’t like repeating myself.
...Well you're being an idiot again. I’m not saying that a girl cannot start to be attracted to a real friend over time; especially someone who was there for her when she really needed a friend. Just don’t be a friend on false pretenses. That kid doing a fist pump above… possible, but not common.
Believe you me; we women have a lot of drama going on in our lives without friends adding to it. You have a crush on her? Your problem; so don't lay the guilt trip on her.
By insisting that you're a good friend, she is actually giving you a nice way out. She is not turning you down like the proverbial bedcover, she is being kind. if your ginormous male ego cannot take it, you're free to leave.
Remember these two in some schmaltzy Karan Johar weep fest? She loved him, he loved someone else and thought of her as his best friend. The fact that he fell for her saree clad form years after he parted from her tomboy self does of course point to the guy’s double standards, but it also tells us that if she can take no for an answer; so should you!
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